Survivors

There are different stages of abuse and various extremes. Treating people less than God intended is never acceptable. The most serious of abuse cases never really ever are exposed. There is a simple reason for that and it either stems from fear or a condition in which we are taught to protect the abuser. Until we accept responsibility in giving althernatives and education to children we will always have those diryt little secrets. I am priveledged to meet the people that I have and watch as they take the reigns and pull ahead beyond their own personal demons.

I want to thank Gail for her sincerity and kindness as she embraces her own journey in a road that has many twist and turns. Someone once said help comes to those who help themself, and this may or may not be true. It never hurts to have a helping hand.

Survivors, empowered by love to gain the strength to overcome.

What is Abuse? - A Warning List

Many people who are being abused do not see themselves as victims. Also, abusers do not see themselves as being abusive. People often think of domestic violence as physical violence, such as hitting. However, domestic violence takes other forms, such as psychological, emotional, or sexual abuse.

Domestic violence is about one person in a relationship using a pattern of behaviors to control the other person. It can happen to people who are married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated, or dating.

If your partner repeatedly uses one or more of the following to control you;

• pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, or biting
• threatening you, your children, other family members or pets
• threatening suicide to get you to do something
• using or threatening to use a weapon against you
• keeping or taking your paycheck
• puts you down or makes you feel bad
• forcing you to have sex or to do sexual acts you do not want or like
• keeping you from seeing your friends, family or from going to work

YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED!!

Survivors

I wrote a post and some how deleted it .. maybe it wasn't meant to be. It was about the sign of weakness, the vulnerability that we all meet up with. Illness, employment, finances, domestic abuse, isolation. I decided rather then rewrite it, that I would talk more about breaking the cycle and what we can do to deal with it. We are human and vulnerable to everything in the world around us. I find that we are sometimes beaten down and that more times then enough the old adage rings true " when it rains it pours."

op·ti·mism /ˈɒptəˌmɪzəm/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[op-tuh-miz-uhm]

–noun

1.	a disposition or tendency to look on the more favorable side of events or conditions and to expect the most favorable outcome.

2.	the belief that good ultimately predominates over evil in the world.

3.	the belief that goodness pervades reality.

4.	the doctrine that the existing world is the best of all possible worlds.

Self pity is not a strong trait and yet we find ourselves questioning why me? The Balance of life on the scales of justice should weigh out the negative and positive. Occasionally due to timing, the scale leans heavily to one side or another. I find the biggest problems are not necessarily why? but how how do we turn any given situation into a positive and what is expected of us and what are our limitations.? So many questions so few answers at times.
I found that for me I woke up at the age of ten and some may say I managed to get stuck at the age of ten. I was in fifth grade and it was another new school, once again the new little girl. I sat in a class of strangers and I glanced out the window. The blue bird caught my eye and I couldn't help but stare. Optimism... I thought it is the" blue bird of happiness. " My eldest son said" I am never optimistic, for if I think the worst and something positive happens then I will be grateful but if I think the best and it falls short, then is that much harder." I felt bad that he held a pessimistic view of life. But I understood the one two many falls and how much harder it is to get back up when your down.
There is no one book that has all the answers because no two situations are identical, like the people involved in each scenario there is positive side and a negative. I find myself caught in my sisters rule of giving advice, and then I find myself having to listen to what I have told others. I believe that the path as rocky as it can be is meant for each of us to travel. It reminds me of the lucky stones, the little white ones. We would spend days hunting for a lucky stone. That is the simplicity of life, a day for a day.
Have faith...... faith that tomorrow we will wake up and the sun will be shinning for when the sun no longer shines or we no longer wake up then worry.
Hold to Hope... that goodness will reign over evil, which means what goes around comes around, sooner or later we all meet our maker.
Embrace Love.... allow the passion for life warm your heart even on the coldest days, for to embrace hate only holds you down to the level of evil.
Know Peace.... for hell is allowing someone else's anger next to your spirit, allow peace next to theirs.
Believe in Dreams... to let go of a dream is to die and it's not time to die.

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I know nothing about raising son's but here I am with five of them, I shared a blog that related to a issue my one son was going through. He said "what good comes from knowing that someone else shares in the same pain" I said it is not n knowing that we share in the same issues of life, but that we survive through some of the same kinds of problems.

Survivors are not the rare breed....

just the most likely to be

overlooked!.....