Monday, June 29, 2009


Domestic war is the ongoing storms of life and it happens more often than people realize. What initiates the violence and encourages or feeds the fire? The studies have revealed a common link of low self esteem. But as we look closer we see that it takes a finely tuned and well cast set of characters to perform in a manner which reflects the victim, perpetrator scenario. The stage in which the cast is directed changes scenes many times and thus creates a yo yo effect. What happens behind close doors and what the human mind is capable of enduring is the ongoing struggles of Domestic war. How to identify and recode the weak strains of humanity has yet to be discovered.

In the years following, I realized there was a pattern that seem to reveal itself in my own adult relationship. I found that I quickly recognized the weak strain within my partner and would quickly try to prevent or redirect his anger. As I read the morning newspaper of a man who took the life of his wife, eldest son and himself, I began to review situations in my own life that seemed really no different.

What triggered and outburst? I am not quite sure, I chalked some of it up to his lifestyle working on so few hours sleep, but as I look back I realize that there were other underlying reasons. I conveniently filed the earlier episodes of violence to the back of my mind and looked at one of the more recent occurrences. I found that I became a prisoner of fear in order to smooth ruffled feathers and prevent the seed of evil the nourishment to germinate and grow. It felt as if I had to pacify the moment and stroke the ego of evil.

Friday, June 26, 2009


Spare the rod and spoil the child. Imagine the images of an adult beating a child, lets flip the image and allow a child to beat an adult. No matter how you view it aggression is the evil within that escapes through anger to control with fear.

Abuse it is not a pretty picture, physical abuse is easier to identify but there are many scars from sexual abuse , verbal abuse, emotional abuse and neglect. Sad to know that the actions of an adult creates a domino affect that spirals through many generations. From simple stress, to abuse of drugs and alcohol all or none can be the initators of a abusive legacy.

I continue to write to allow others to know no shame as a victim but to also know that they can change the world one person at a time and that is through their own thoughts and actions.

It is not enough to preach love,
it is more important to live love.

Monday, June 15, 2009


The will to live,
is it insanity or courage?
Dysfunction: all threads need to be mended, as the weave can only be strengthened when the repair is made to the family as a whole.
A child has very little choice... they are victims of circumstance.

It is true that there is a certain amount of healing
which comes with time.

To break the cycle of abuse everyone
has to accept their responsibility.


The seeds of evil sow hatred and violence, weeding
reveals the beauty of a well maintained garden.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Fear hides behind a wall of silence...