Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
I felt completely mesmerized by the power of the wind, as I watched it dance like a picture in motion high a top the trees. The leaves more than swayed back and forth against the darkened sky, they moved with such speed that it created a sort of shimmer that reminded me of the reaction of oil as it is stirred into water. I felt pulled, as if there was a magnetic draw between my spirit and the hum of the wind as it thrust the hills into a state of an awakening. In one glimpse nature reveals the strength, the weakness and the vulnerabilities that surface between man and earth and the heavens above.
It might be just a little tingle,
like spiders on the nerves,
but to me it is a reminder,
that love never hurts.
Not a pleasant memory,
but I refuse to let it go,
surface reveals a healing,
inside it burns so.
I don't hate him,
I just don't like him very much.
Monday, September 21, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I want to be a part of it - new york, new york These vagabond shoes, are longing to stray Right through the very heart of it - new york, new york I wanna wake up in a city, that doesn’t sleep And find I’m king of the hill - top of the heap These little town blues, are melting away I’ll make a brand new start of it - in old new york If I can make it there, I’ll make it anywhere It’s up to you - new york, new york
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Friday, September 4, 2009
They say that time is the great healer,
but open wounds never heal?
Fear is the unseen bars that imprison the soul.
I have been locked in my own prison for so long
,that I had become accustomed to the walls of hell.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Limit control by education and independence
Recognize the red flag - Extreme Jealousy is not a compliment
Constant criticism is not acceptable, avoid it
Follow your gut instinct, if it doesn't feel right! it is not right.
People don't change if you see signs of abuse it only gets worse.
Avoid situations that will put you danger, traveling alone,etc
Avoid the I'm gonna save him syndrome, let him save him or self.
If you sense danger, it's danger.
Don't provoke, do!
No to sex is your right!
Caution when entering a relationship.
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
Many people want to think that all abusers are psychopaths or are born defective or in some way cynical self righteous spawns of the devil. In all reality many factors can and do contribute to abuse. In studies it is proven that much is learned in our very youth. Much can be a behavior issue which stemmed from cultural and life or lack of life experiences. Drugs, alcohol and ignorance all can play a part on what and how one deals with the world. The building up of stress in a very poor economy also reveals a rise in abuse and thus proves that many are capable of becoming an abuser on all levels.
Allowing ourself to heal and learn from the past is the best way to prevent abuse in the future. We can break the cycle when we allow ourselves to recognize the first signs of an abusive relationship. Insecurity is the first tool used by an abuser, recognize your own worth and value to your self and the community. This is your first step to avoiding the traps of an abuser.